tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post2462811415179252890..comments2023-07-16T05:28:11.475-04:00Comments on The Autistic Me: Book Excerpt: Intro Autism and Relationships (Draft)PoetCSWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12833522103074528608noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-841367775811923362011-02-02T16:54:06.420-05:002011-02-02T16:54:06.420-05:00I'm familiar with only some of the titles. I d...I'm familiar with only some of the titles. I do recognize most of the authors mentioned. I'm not really focused on the sexuality aspect, overall, though it is mentioned at the end of the manuscript. <br /><br />I know some of the names mentioned follow this blog and my Twitter feed, which I finally started in January. Twitter has definitely helped increased Web traffic to our sites. <br /><br />Likens is in the Midwest, somewhere. I should read his "Finding Kansas" this year. I have a few hundred books (literally) I am trying to read for another massive project. <br /><br />Thank your for the book suggestions.PoetCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12833522103074528608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-37447125557470456372011-02-02T16:36:02.296-05:002011-02-02T16:36:02.296-05:00One work which discussed bonds for the most affect...One work which discussed bonds for the most affected is called <i>Autistic Sexuality</i> by Lindsay Weekes.<br /><br />It's the one I find myself recommending a lot, because it also talks about same-sex attraction. The relevant bit is probably in the last 2 paragraphs. He also talks about the definitions and what he uses. And I love the way it covers the gifted and the most affected.<br /><br />(More about bonds is also in <i>A voice in the empty air</i>: a cautionary tale).<br /><br /><a href="http://linds.net/sexuality.html" rel="nofollow">Autistic Sexuality by Lindsay Weekes</a><br /><br />Other books that I have read or am reading include Amy Gravino's <i>The naughty autie</i>; Travis Breeding's <i>I want to be like you</i>; Arman Khoaedi's <i>Autism in Wonderland</i>; Ian Ford's <i>A Field Guide to Earthlings</i> and Garry Burge's <i>Life is not what it seems</i> and <i>I want to work</i>. And there is Aaron Likens too. He's in your part of the world, Mr Wyatt.<br /><br />MAAP/OASIS also has some good material about relationships.Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-81381434535387167112011-02-02T11:58:16.813-05:002011-02-02T11:58:16.813-05:00I hope this one section does not convey a primary ...I hope this one section does not convey a primary focus on my experiences, which are included only to offer some insights beyond dry research or cognitive theories. <br /><br />As a researcher, I work with the "complete spectrum" and do include discussions with parents, caregivers, and educators with experiences interacting with the most challenged students. My mother is a one-on-one support aide in a public elementary school, which is one reason I have attempted to include concerns of those parents and educators. <br /><br />This is not a "dating guide" or "social guide" purely for the least impaired. However, I did make the decision to include chapters at the end of the text on those matters. I also indicate to readers that those topics are not, as some activists might wish, going to apply universally. <br /><br />I do believe there is a need to discuss family relationships and possible friendships for the most challenged. It is not comfortable topic for many, because the reality is that we do not know if some non-verbal children form bonds -- and we have no good way to test this.<br /><br />Yet, it was assumed I would not and could not speak or form bonds. I was diagnosed mentally retarded at birth. I do believe intensive time with my mother, who was active in all therapies from birth on, helped the neurological development. That, sadly, will *not* be the case for every family, even those making every imaginable effort.<br /><br />A final note, "autism" without qualifiers is the new standard of the APA. I am not completely comfortable with that, and have written so, but my writings should adhere to APA standards if I count them towards "tenure" at an institution. I try to clarify carefully, and include the DSM discussion because of this problem. I personally believe the single grouping will be problematic in the future.PoetCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12833522103074528608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-32504956201694857692011-02-02T07:51:10.751-05:002011-02-02T07:51:10.751-05:00Wouldn't it be more helpful and accurate to qu...Wouldn't it be more helpful and accurate to qualify your discussion to HFA? None of what you wrote really captures the experience of LFA but by using the term autism without qualification, your book may come over as being activist and will only be given credit by people that believe like you.<br /><br />I understand its an important topic to discuss your experience and the experiences of people you have some commonality with and it would be worthwhile for people outside the ASD community to read this. However, it leaves out a significant chunk of experiences of the ASD population. <br /><br />There is no need to give equal consideration of the non-verbal, ID and LFA communities in your ebook, especially if it falls outside your experience. However, I think qualifying the range of the spectrum your writing about will make your hard work more credible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-1550297735694824852011-02-01T22:28:41.682-05:002011-02-01T22:28:41.682-05:00Thank you for the kind words.
I am attempting to...Thank you for the kind words. <br /><br />I am attempting to write the book for two audiences: families and autistic individuals. I am, admittedly, not always good at anticipating what questions people might have. Also, the two audiences are quite different. Many families fear we won't be happy without large social networks or "normal" relationships, while I'm quite fine being in my small world. <br /><br />Hopefully, I can encourage communication with what I am writing.PoetCSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12833522103074528608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3203256752741667615.post-78109549859115324352011-02-01T22:02:42.181-05:002011-02-01T22:02:42.181-05:00Another "live and let live" here.
I enj...Another "live and let live" here.<br /><br />I enjoyed the first sentence.<br /><br />Also I liked the way you challenged the assumption of "asocial hermits" and "stalkers". "The reality is more complex" and then you showed us.<br /><br />"I focus on my interests and purposes".<br /><br />And the "shared history of frustrating social experiences". I like the way you showed different ways the social impairment comes out.<br /><br />Would like to read more about emotional proximity.<br /><br />Forward and frank!Adelaide Duponthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01490123934889071074noreply@blogger.com